One-third of all the psalms in the Bible are what commentators call “laments.” And the lament of all laments is found in Psalm 22:

      My God, my God, why have you abandoned me?
      Why are you so far away when I groan for help?

      Every day I call to you, my God, but you do not answer.
      Every night I lift my voice, but I find no relief (22:1-2).

Have you ever felt that way? I suspect we all have! St. John of the Cross calls it “The Dark Night of the Soul.”

But I love the way the psalms of lament always end with hope. [Continue reading]

The B-I-B-L-E and LGBTQ

February 15th, 2019 | Posted by jameswatkins in Uncategorized - (0 Comments)

Next week, the United Methodist denomination will tackle the issue of homosexual clergy and same-sex marriage. It’s one of the most polarizing subjects today in the culture, courts and the church. One extreme pole pickets with signs spewing “God Hates Fags.” On the opposite extreme are those proclaiming God blesses same-sex relationships.

I’ve been writing about the issues surrounding homosexuality for over 20 years, so here’s my latest. I trust this post is both compassionate and convicting, but most of all biblical. [Continue reading]

You must repost this!

February 14th, 2019 | Posted by jameswatkins in Uncategorized - (0 Comments)

cartoon by James Watkins

For more snarky cartoons from “Evil Jim,” visit the cartoon archives. But first, you must repost this!

I’ve discovered that even though males and females may speak the same language, they speak two totally different dialects: Androgen spoken by males and Estrogen spoken by females.

Here are some of the theories I’ve developed over forty years of attempting communication—often unsuccessfully—with my wife. [Continue reading]

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My annual Love, Marriage, Sex issue

Lookin’ for dope pen name

February 8th, 2019 | Posted by jameswatkins in Uncategorized - (0 Comments)

Hope and Humor cartoons by James Watkins

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Love, marriage, sex issue

February 4th, 2019 | Posted by jameswatkins in Uncategorized - (0 Comments)

Welcome to my annual salute to love, marriage and sex. If you’re single, dating, engaged, married, divorced, widowed or “it’s complicated,” there’s something for you! Enjoy.

Many of the posts below are from my books on love and sexuality, including The Why Files: When Can I Start Dating?. And check out my cartoons on love.

Falling in love—and getting back up
“There must be a higher love”
Looking for love in all the right places
Men and women are different!
Men are dirt
No hablo, estrogen! Becoming bilingual in relationships
Breaking up without breaking down

Children who marry their parents: the psychology of courtship
Top ten reasons I’m not divorcing my wife
Top ten secrets to staying married

A case for polygamy?!
Can I become a virgin again?
“Coming Out” My sexual identity crisis
Cure for common cold: sex
Fifty Shades of Beige “Reel” sex is never as good as real sex
Guy’s guide to cars . . . and sex
The hidden habit: masturbation
Sexual identity issue Excerpts from my books on sexuality as well as recent posts for LGBTQs and straights
Three secrets to XXX-ceptional sex
Top ten turn-ons for women
Why are guys such boobs about breasts?

The most powerful aphrodesiac

February 1st, 2019 | Posted by jameswatkins in Uncategorized - (0 Comments)

Hope and Humor cartoon by James Watkins

Click for my Love, Marriage, Sex issue with 21 posts for the single, married, divorced or “it’s complicated.”

How to walk on water

January 28th, 2019 | Posted by jameswatkins in Uncategorized - (0 Comments)

walking on water
One of the things I loved best about my uncle’s lakeside property was strolling out on the dock, off the end of the diving board and continuing to walk across the water. I would stroll out to the middle of Graham Lake, then turn and look back at the shore hundreds of feet from the shore. It was almost as much fun as diving deep into the water and paddling around the surface. Now I was standing firmly atop the surface. [Continue reading]

‘Tolerant’ intolerance

January 25th, 2019 | Posted by jameswatkins in Uncategorized - (0 Comments)

Hope and Humor cartoon by James Watkins

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Not all are created “equal,” but all should be treated with equal compassion, respect and dignity.

St. Paul wrote, “There is no longer Jew or Gentile, slave or free, male and female. For you are all one in Christ Jesus” (Galatians 3:28). So, on Martin Luther King, Jr. Day, here are some of my favorite columns that explore equality:

Am I a “feminist”? Yes and no. (Gender equality is complicated!)

James Robert Watkins: ex-slave, author, soul brother I’m proud to call this social reformer family!

Martin Luther King Jr’s ten commandments for cultural change

Race relations by the numbers An award-winning cover story I wrote after a summer of racial unrest and violence

Top ten signs your church may be prejudiced

What was St. Paul thinking when he wrote “Women must be silent”?!

Why I support “gay rights” (Several posts on this complicated issue)

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