Another gay Christian ‘comes out’

August 16th, 2014 | Posted by jameswatkins in Uncategorized


It’s Saturday, so taking a day off from “Hope & Humor” to address “Heavy topics with a light touch.”

Today, another Christian music artist has “come out” saying she has had same-sex attraction since age 13. Vicky Beeching, best known for songs “The Wonder of the Cross,” “Above All Else” and “Glory to God Forever,” told The Independent, “When I think of myself at 13, sobbing into that carpet, I just want to help anyone in that situation to not have to go through what I did, to show that instead, you can be yourself—a person of integrity.”

Of course Christian websites, blogs, Facebook accounts, etc. etc. are reacting with holy hysteria!

I’ve addressed my struggles with sexual identity as a teen on my site (I’m straight) and recently attempted to present a comprehensive statement on Christianity and homosexuality. I’ve sought to be biblical and compassionate (and “biblical” requires that we be compassionate).

      Dear brothers and sisters, if another believer is overcome by some sin, you who are godly should gently and humbly help that person back onto the right path. And be careful not to fall into the same temptation yourself (Galatians 6:10, emphasis mine).

So, here’s a round up of my posts addressing these complicated and complex issues:

A “civil” debate on same-sex unions

Christian musician “comes out”

“Coming out” My sexual self-identity crisis

God hates

Speaking with truth . . . and grace

Why are some people so bent out of shape
about homosexuality?

What are your thoughts on these issues? Comment below: (Feel free to be passionate, but also compassionate.)

You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 You can leave a response, or trackback.

10 Responses

  • Jason says:

    Well, here’s the thing James. People want to say those who won’t soft-pedal the Scriptures or Jesus’ teachings aren’t being compassionate. I argue the other way: someone who’s deluding themselves into saying they’re Christians while openly rejecting Christ as Lord needs to know they’re not really following Christ. (You can’t say someone’s teaching is wrong and then claim they’re your Lord and you’re following them like a bond-servant as we’re called to do.)

    Jesus gave one example of marriage: one man, one woman. He did it at a time when there were all kinds of relationships including same-sex, multiple spouses, sex slaves, etc. Jesus ONLY taught one man, one woman. Anything outside of that was sinful sexual activity. Not the temptation to it, mind you, but the actual actions.

    So Vicky Beeching is openly rejecting that teaching of Jesus and saying she knows better. She is basically committing self-idolatry by placing her wants and desires ahead of Christ’s teachings. That’s not what someone who is a Christian would do.

    • jameswatkins says:

      I would argue the “compassionate” thing to do is loving say, “You’re not obeying the Word of God on this issue.” Anything less is not compassionate. We are told to “gently” bring straying believers back into the fold; not to hold up a sign at a funeral that says “God Hates Fags.” Getting just the right balance is tricky!

      • Jason says:

        Right on the mark. Honestly, I question if the folks at Crazyboro are Christians at all. I don’t see how you can be filled with Christ and have so much hate.

        • jameswatkins says:

          “And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him.

          “If a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen?” (1 John 4:16, 20). I’ve quoted it in King James Version since that’s the only Bible they recognize.

  • Judi Wilson says:

    There is so much we don’t understand about the genetic component to homosexuality. So I am uneasy condemning a whole class of people I don’t understand. Rick Warren says gays can be Christians as long as they don’t practice homosexuality. Whaaaat?
    I don’t know–I don’t have any answers.
    God is the only ultimate judge of right and wrong.

    • jameswatkins says:

      I would totally agree with Rick Warren that gays can be Christians. But followers of Jesus Christ—both homosexual and heterosexual—are instructed to follow God’s Word. That’s where I draw the line.

  • Amber B says:

    Being a Youth Pastors wife has caused me to address a WHOLE LOT of complicated issues like homosexuality. Teens coming to me with questions about Drugs, Sex, and homosexuality and all the other issues in todays society. My youth come to me and ask the typical questions about this issue. and I am careful with what I say, for many reasons…becasue 1. I’m not God 2. God is calling me to teach these youth and mold them BUT he’s calling me to guide in the way of his word. SO when I’m addressed with these questions I ask my youth. “what do you think God says about these issues in both the New and Old testament?” and they say “I dont know, i only know what the world and what my parents and friends say..” and that really started a fire in my heart. We are to go by Gods word and what God says on these issues. We all sin, we all fall short, and we all have our Struggles. I try to encourage my youth to dig in Gods word and see and find what God says not just about homosexuality but also about sin in general. Jesus calls us to Love but loving doesn’t mean we have to agree with someones actions. there is a fine line between agreeing and condoning an action. I think we as a society have a twisted picture that if we think somethings a sin then that already means that we hate that person. WHICH is entirely not true. My dad cheated on my mom numerous times..I love my dad, but i don’t agree with his actions. I had pre-marital sex before i became a christian did my mom love me..Yes, but doesn’t mean she condoned my behavior because it was a sin. Do I feel like someone can struggle with the feeling of sexual idenity and be a chrisitan YES i do..but its a choice to ACT on that temptation just like any other sin. we have to choose to not act on those behaviors that satan is tempting us with.

    • Lisa says:

      Smiling and thanking God for youth pastors like you, Amber. 🙂 We too often try to tell kids what they should think using the world’s terms of debate. It is much easier and better to encourage people (regardless of age) to seek out what they personally hear from God – through the Bible and personal listening prayer. We desperately need to teach kids and adults how to recognize God’s voice.

      It breaks my heart when anyone places a label on a person and condemns them with that label. It’s like casting the first stone. May God break our hearts for what breaks His. We are to be His ambassadors, not His crusaders.

  • My opinion doesn’t matter on many topics people like to discuss, but we have to go back to what God’s word says and it’s very clear on how God views homosexuality as well as all sin. It separates us from God so we are told to repent which means to change one’s mind which results in changed behavior; therefore there should be no debate but prayer for those entangled in sin.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *